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HOW DO SOME PEOPLE BECOME GHOSTS?

We are all given free will – even when we die. The light leading the way to the other side appears for us all, but we can choose to go through or stay and become a ghost. There are many theories as to how long the light lingers around us after death. Some mediums believe it’s three days after the funeral, others say it’s three days after the final memorial. The exact length of time is not known. What we do know is that eventually the white light leaves and the person is now a ghost without a body, voice box or means of communication with those of us living in this dimension.

WHY DO SOME CHOOSE TO BECOME A GHOST?

People refuse to go through the light for many reasons. Sometimes the grieving ones won’t let their loved ones pass on. Every time they cry out, “Don’t leave me!” the spirit is pulled back to this plane. Sometimes the newly deceased is afraid of being judged for their actions in the after life. Often, people stay because they don’t believe in an afterlife. And sometimes, people get stuck because their curiosity gets the best of them. Once they discover they can go anywhere with a thought and act as a fly on the wall, they don’t want to leave. The gossip is too tempting.

WHY DO GHOSTS ATTACH TO PEOPLE AND PLACES?

Once they are stuck here, they realize that they can’t get their energy from drinking, eating or sleeping like they used to. Soon they discover that they can only get their energy from us. Because they’re now earthbound, they are vibrating at a low level and therefore get their energy from lower level vibrations such as stress, anger, sadness and frustration. It doesn’t take them long to discover that they can manipulate metal and electricity fairly easily. So if they misplace your keys five minutes before you have to leave for work, and you get completely stressed out and frustrated searching for them because you “know” you put them on the kitchen counter, the ghost in your house can live off that energy for several days. If they turn your TV off while you’re watching it, that surge of fear you emit can last them for a good while.

Ghosts need to therefore attach their energy to someone or someplace. This is how they “survive.” If they attach to a place and the homeowners move out, the ghost will go dormant for a while until a new family moves in. Without our energy to steal, they go into a sleep like state. This is why many ghosts choose to attach to people instead. Like attracts like, so they have to find someone who has similar energy. Most people who choose to stay a ghost aren’t the best kind of people. They tend to be addicted to earthly things – money, food, pleasure, drugs, alcohol. So if for example on earth they were focused on looking good, they might attach to someone who is obsessed with body image. An alcoholic ghost will seek out a current alcoholic. They are drawn to people of similar energies and will attach to them. They usually attach at the back of the solar plexus chakra – in the middle of our back. But this isn’t an absolute. If a person was a sex addict in life, they will attach to a similar energy at the sacral chakra. If a person was jealous and possessive and attaches to a similar energy, it will usually link in at the heart chakra.

PHYSICAL SIGNS OF A GHOST AROUND YOU:

1) Holes in your aura. If you’ve experienced extreme drinking, eating or drugging, you’ve put holes in your aura and are therefore at risk of an attachment. If you’ve had surgery, there will be a tear in your aura for about six months afterward that will need to sealed with rest. In the meantime, you would be vulnerable to attachment. But remember, if you keep your energy light, positive and healthy, you won’t have anything to give a ghost and they will eventually leave you.

2) Headaches in adults, tummy aches and sore throats in children. Ghosts in the home will effect us physically. Adults tend to experience more tension headaches than is the norm while children tend to have upset stomachs and sore throats. Adults can also experience an increase in colds and upper respiratory issues. Keep in mind, however, that this alone is NOT a sign of a ghost. It’s this issue in combination will all of these others.

WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN YOUR HOME

1) Electrical problems. Some people will experience issues with their TV, phone, computer or children’s toys. People report TVs turning on when no one is in the room. Children’s electronic toys going off in the middle of the night. Alarms going off during the day and computers freezing up are also often reported. Lights turning on and off are common in a haunting.

2) Misplaced objects. If you keep losing things you need like you wedding ring, car keys or wallet only to have them miraculously reappear later, you may have a ghost

3) Cold Spots. If you have areas of cold spots in your home, you might have a ghost. This can be very common in an older home, however. Taken alone, none of these signs point to a ghost. Check your insulation. Always rule out physical explanations first.

4) Unexplained shadows. Seeing shadows dart out of your perepherial vision, often termed “Shadow People,” is another sign of a haunting.

5) Unusual animal behavior. If your dog or cat suddenly acts skittish in one part of your home, stares at one spot in particular or barks at “nothing,” while staring at a corner of the room, the animal might be seeing a ghost.

6) Unexplained noises. People with a ghost attached to them or their home often report hearing whispering sounds that they can’t quite make out. Others unexplained noises include footsteps, the sounds of doors opening , knocks, scratching and the sound of something being dropped are other common sounds.

EMOTIONAL SIGNS OF A GHOST

1) Feelings of being watched. In your home you might feel as though an unseen presence is always watching you. Many people report that this occurs most often at night and when they’re alone. This is a common feeling and is usually not paranormal, but if it happens consistently and in the same part of the house, it might be something.

2) Increased arguments in the home. Ghosts can feed for days off of a good argument, so they will often send thoughts into people’s head to create fighting and tension. People living in a haunted home often report that their marriage was going great and then suddenly senseless fighting erupted and they couldn’t stop it.

3) Feeling tired in your home and energized when you leave. Because ghosts take our energy, we will feel drained, tired and a bit cranky when we’re home but once we leave the home, we’ll feel more energized and happier. If a ghost has attached itself to you, this will be a much harder feeling to shake. It’s important to see your doctor to make sure these feelings don’t have a common, explainable source that can be helped with medicine or therapy.

WHAT SHOULD YOU DO IF YOU HAVE A GHOST?

You can seek out a reputable paranormal team for help. Check their references and make sure they don’t charge. You can also get your home blessed by a priest or minister. Keep the energy in your home light and clear. Make sure your home is always clean and cleared of clutter. Open the windows on a bright sunny day. Open your blinds always to let the light in. Sage your house weekly. Keep crystals in your home to lift the energy. Place classical music or the Gregorian chants in your home to break up negativity. Have a running source of water in your home to clear the energy such as an aquarium or water fountain. Avoid fake, silk plants and opt for live plants which will help clean the energy in your home.

The best way to keep your home and energy clean and clear of ghosts is to live a life of balance, positivity and gratitude. If you think you have a ghost, read up on this topic. Some great books include When Ghosts Speak by Mary Ann Winkowski and Relax! It’s Only a Ghost by Echo Bodine.

Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz invites love into your life. It opens your heart to receive love and gently reminds you that you are worthy of love. Wear this stone or keep it by your bedside to remind you that love is coming your way.

Malachite

The beautiful green swirls in this stone help to usher away hurtful memories. Malachite works quickly and diligently to clear away painful heartache and make way for new love. Try sleeping with this stone on your heart chakra. Alternately, you can wear the stone as a pendant over your heart or you can sleep it with it under the pillow.

Rhodochrosite

The lovely marbling of pinks and whites in this stone helps us to unite the different aspects of our personality so that we can learn to truly love ourselves. The only way to bring true, authentic love into your life is to love yourself first. Rhodochrosite helps you to appreciate yourself as it teaches that you are worthy of love, health and happiness

Rhodonite

The pinks and blacks in this stone remind us that affairs of the heart are often painful. Rhodonite is the Stone of Forgiveness and it will help you to let go of any pain from a past relationship with an attitude of love and forgiveness as it gently cleanses your aura of hurt, anger, regret and bitterness.

Green Aventurine

Known as the Stone of Love and Luck, carrying this stone with you will increase your confidence and your luck at attracting new love into your life. It’s also known as a Stone of Abundance, so keep one in your wallet to ensure new financial resources too!

Apache Tear

This form of Obsidian is known to absorb depression, grief and negativity. Legends say that as the Apache women and children watched their men die in battle to save their land and way of life, they cried rivers of tears. These tears hardened into these Obsidian stones which we call Apache Tears. The legend says that whoever holds an Apache Tear will never grieve again. Carry this stone with you to help absorb any sadness you may be carrying in your heart.

Citrine

This joyful, sunny stone is known as the Stone of Success. It will help make you feel more empowered, confident and sure of yourself. Carry this stone or wear it as jewelry to enhance your self-esteem, confidence and joy.

The aura is our energy field. It’s comprised of seven layers of energy. It’s egg shaped and extends about an arm’s length all around your body. The stronger your aura, the healthier you are. The aura can be weakened by stress, poor diet, lack of sleep, lack of exercise, anger, worry, fear, drugs, alcohol and tobacco. There are, however, some very concrete and relatively simple things you can do to strengthen your aura and revitalize your mental, emotional and physical health.

KEEP YOUR THOUGHTS POSITIVE

Studies show that negativity, anger, fear and worry lower our immune system. These emotions also weaken our aura making us susceptible to psychic attack and taking on other people’s “stuff.” If you keep your thoughts positive by reading uplifting material, hanging around happy people, and taking vacations from negative news, you will begin to restore your aura. Try to avoid negative people. Don’t get caught up in their arguments, don’t try to change them or convince them of anything and don’t take their negativity personally. Keep your thoughts positive and your surroundings as uplifting as possible and soon you’ll see remarkable improvements in your emotional wellbeing. Try using affirmations too such as “All is well in my world” or “All my needs are easily met.”

EXERCISE EVERY DAY

Even if you just walk around your neighborhood for ten minutes, you will be doing your aura so much good. Getting outside and getting some exercise strengthens your immune system, improves your blood flow and helps you reduce excess anxieties. Exercising daily also reduces stress and increases your self-esteem.

DRINK LOTS OF WATER

Drinking plenty of water – aim for 64 ounces a day – helps to cleanse your body and your aura of negativity. It helps flush out old negativity that we store in our cellular memory. Sometimes when people are sending us negative thoughts, these emotions can stick to our aura making us feel worn down and tired. Drinking water helps flush this out and keeps our aura healthy, strong and clear.

WEAR A CRYSTAL EVERY DAY

Wearing a crystal every day for psychic protection is smart and it works. Crystals help protect us from negativity, psychic attack, worry and fear. They also help release blockages and break up old patterns that are no longer working for us. Clear quartz will energize your aura, smoky quartz will absorb sadness, amethyst will increase one’s spirituality, watermelon tourmaline increases your self-love, black tourmaline or hematite will ground your energy and protect your aura.

TAKE WEEKLY SALT BATHS

Soaking for at least 20 minutes a week in a salt bath helps to rid the physical, emotional and spiritual bodies of any negativity absorbed throughout the week. Simply combine a cup of Epsom Salts, a cup of Sea Salt and a ½ cup of Baking Soda. Stir together and pour into running water. Soak for at least 20 minutes and as you pull the drain, imagine all your stress from the week disappearing down the drain. You’ll feel renewed, restored and revitalized.

Wouldn’t it be great if you could tell everything about a person just by their first name? Wouldn’t you love to know the best way to approach your boss about a raise or handle that cantankerous co-worker? Well, with the power of numerology, you can. All you have to know is the person’s first name and – more specifically – the first vowel of their name. This will give you insight into what motivates that person. Read on to learn how knowing the meaning of just 6 letters can you give you amazing insight into everyone you meet.

A

A’s vibrate to the number 1. Examples include Mary, Jane, Sandra and Garry. A’s are natural born leaders. They like to be number 1. They are ambitious, hardworking and very self-critical. They need to be in charge, and they need to be told they’re doing a good job – often. Positive reinforcement is a great way to handle A energy. If you are working on a project with an A energy, let them take the lead. It will be easier, trust me. It’s not worth it to compete with an A. If you compliment an A, they will do amazing work. If you criticize an A, they will rebel strongly.

A’s are trustworthy, hardworking and success oriented. They work well as entrepreneurs too. If you have an A working for you, make sure to compliment them, give them specific tasks to be in charge of, and feel comfortable letting them work on their own. They will do a great job.

If you want to know more about A energy, think about the name of our country. America is an A energy. We value independence, we love freedom and we are the leader of the free world.

E

If you meet someone who’s first vowel in their name is E (such as Dean, Jennifer and Sean), as them if they’ve traveled lately. Es love to escape, travel and have new adventures. Es crave freedom and independence. They don’t like being told what to do and will resist conforming. The best way to approach these people is to let them march to their own drummer. They will work best when given the opportunity to work on their own. They love change, travel and shaking things up.

E’s love beauty and magic and creativity. They love people and enjoy learning their life stories. They are like little detectives and will insist on getting to the heart of any mystery – no matter how small. If you want to know about something going on in an office, ask an E. They will be sure to know. They love gossip and can enjoy all the drama associated with it. Because E’s are so bright and positive, they tend to attract negative people to them. E’s need to make sure they only allow positive people into their inner circle.

I

I energy loves to help people. They are the humanitarians of the group. Examples of I energy include Bill, Mike, Rita, and Cindy. I’s often have issues from their childhood that they’re still healing from. They will often feel a sense of responsibility for one parent in particular. Many I’s were abused as children, adopted or lost a parent early on.

I’s are great leaders. If you have an I energy as a boss, you’re in good hands. They work well with others. I’s are fair, even tempered and sociable. They enjoy helping others and will do best in service-oriented or healing professions.

O

When you meet an O, ask them if they have children. O’s love to take care of others and are very family oriented. If they don’t have children, then they probably have pets that are like children to them. Os work better on their own or as the boss. They don’t like being told what to do. Examples of Os include John, Rose, Tonya and Bob.

Os enjoy being in charge and taking care of things. People working with an O can tend to assume the O will handle everything, leaving the O feeling as though they’re in a thankless position. Co-workers will often be heard saying, “Ask O. She can handle that.” Because O’s love to take care of others, they need to remember to take care of themselves or they can feel burnt out and tired.

O’s work really well as business owners, entrepreneurs and supervisors.

U

If you work with a U, you probably find yourself laughing a lot. Examples of U’s are Judy, Lucy, Justin and Kurt. U’s have a great sense of humor and love to make people feel happy. U’s are very creative, fun and animated. They tell great stories and will often exaggerate the truth just to make the story better. U’s are the performers of the world. They have a lot of creative energy and need to remember that they release stress through creative outlets. They are very spontaneous and think quickly on their feet.

U’s can have extreme energy: when they’re happy, they feel amazing, but when they’re sad, they can get very down. U’s give great advice and make wonderful counselors.

SOMETIMES Y

In numerology, when a Y is between two consonants, it’s considered a vowel. Examples of Y’s include Gwyneth, Lynn, Tyrone, and Myra. Y’s are the seekers of the group. They like to work alone and need lots of solitude to recharge their batteries. Y’s have strong opinions about issues and won’t easily change their mind. Y’s don’t like to reveal too much about themselves. They tend to be secretive and hold grudges for long periods of time. Y’s love nature, especially the ocean. They are very intelligent and can easily hold their own in arguments. Y’s are very intuitive and are often spiritual. If Y’s don’t have faith in a higher power, they will feel lost and disconnected.

So now you have a quick and easy way to know how to handle the people you encounter. If the first vowel in their name is an A, you know they need to be first. They are very competitive and are self-critical. E’s need freedom, adventure, change and the chance to work on their own. I’s make great bosses and are happiest when their job is helping others. O’s are the parents. They love to care take and nurture everyone else. They make good bosses, entrepreneurs, and business owners. U’s are funny, fun-loving and creative. Just stay clear of them when they’re in a bad mood. Y’s are quiet, intelligent and prefer to work alone. They like to keep their private life private but inside they tend to be deep thinkers and spiritual seekers.

If your child is intuitive, you probably already know it. Intuitive children often have night terrors. They complain of seeing scary things in their room at night such as shadow people, the “smelly man” or “hat man.” They will feel instinctively comfortable with some people and instantly shy or cautious around others. Intuitive children tend to be creative, empathic, and gentle. They are connected to nature and animals. Your child might talk about seeing lights or colors around people. They might have dreams that later come true or see deceased family members. For many parents, this is all very scary. However, there are some concrete steps you can take right now to help your intuitive child embrace these gifts and use them when they’re ready to help make the world a better place.

Validate Your Child. It’s very important to believe your child when he says something scary is in the room or she tells you that the man next door gives her the creeps. Kids need to know that you’re a safe place to turn to when they experience these intuitive insights. Don’t tell them it’s their imagination or they were just dreaming. Listen to them and validate their concerns. “Wow, that was a scary dream. Could you draw it for me and we can talk about it?” Or try saying, “I used to see scary things in my room when I was a child too. Would you like to try sleeping with a night light?” Encourage your child to keep a dream journal to write or draw in. Tell them that this is all a normal part of growing up. The one thing kids are afraid of is feeling or being different. So make sure they know that their feelings, visions and dreams are perfectly normal.

Empower Your Child. When we’re scared, we feel powerless. If your child is experiencing night terrors or seeing scary things in their room at night, help them to feel less afraid by giving them so control over the situation. You can buy or make a protective spray to clear the room of negativity. Simply add lavender, sage, frankincense, and myrrh essential oils to a bottle of water. Add a pinch of salt and have your child spray the room at night when they’re feeling afraid. Lavender is calming, sage is protective and frankincense and myrrh are ancient oils of protection and healing. You can give your child a protective statue that resonates with your belief system. Arch Angel Michael is very protective for children. You can give your child a nightlight or flashlight to use when they’re scared.

Teach Your Child Grounding Techniques. Sensitive children are constantly picking up the emotions of others around them. This can leave them feeling a bit spacey. When they learn to ground their energy, they will have more control over their own feelings and emotions. Make sure your child gets to play outside at least 20 minutes a day. Encourage them to walk around the house barefooted. Ask them to help you plant a garden. Make sure they drink plenty of water. Put a plant or a fish bowl in their room. Plants and fish are wonderful at absorbing excess energy. A water fountain in the bedroom can be very soothing at night too. Some of the best ways for a child to ground and cleanse their energy are to jump and twirl. So have your child do jumping jacks, get out on the trampoline, twirl and dance. Karate is also a great extracurricular activity for intuitive children because it teaches them grounding and focusing techniques.

Teach Your Child About Colors. The power of colors is immensely helpful to an intuitive person. Black absorbs negativity; pink encourages love and happiness. Yellow inspires confidence and a sunny disposition. Green is healing while blue is calming. White is the color of protection. You can do fun exercises with your child to help them learn to work with colors. On the way to school, have them imagine jumping into a white fluffy cloud. Tell them that this color will protect them throughout the day. If they have a test at school, have them imagine standing in the center of the sun. Have them breathe in the warm, golden yellow color and tell them that this will give them the confidence needed to excel. If a classmate is being a bit mean, have your child imagine wrapping that friend in pink cotton candy. This will calm their friend’s energy down and help them to be nicer.

More and more intuitive souls are incarnating than ever before. As the parent of an intuitive, it can often feel scary. Many parents feel at their wit’s end when dealing with their intuitive child. But the strategies mentioned here can and will help. Intuitives are like psychic sponges. They pick up the emotions of others throughout their day. As we grow up, we learn to deal with this. But children are often confused and scared by this influx of emotions. Empower your child by teaching them these strategies. Encourage them to take a salt bath once a week to cleanse their auric field. Simply add a cup of Epsom salt to a ½ cup of baking soda and a ½ cup of salt. Pour into a running bath and have your child bathe in the salt water for at least 15 minutes. There are wonderful books on parenting your intuitive child too. Remember that your child is gifted with a beautiful talent and ability to feel on a deeper level than his or her peers. Teach them to accept and nurture this gift and you will help them to heal our world when they’re ready.

What’s a night worker? A night worker is an intuitive who helps people during their dream state. Some people with natural psychic abilities have agreed to work as night workers meaning they astral travel at night to help others in a variety of ways. Some night workers will travel to sick people and help heal their energy. Other night workers will counsel people about a problem the dreamer is dealing with. Some intuitives will help recently departed souls cross over and still other night workers use the dream state to help animals who are lost or injured.

When we sleep, most of us astral project. Our soul leaves our body and travels through the astral planes. We remain connected to our body by a silver “umbilical cord” of energy. Most people travel to the other side to rest or review their soul’s path. But some people – called Night Workers — spend this time helping others.

Night workers have dreams that are very different from the average dreamer. A night worker’s dreams are vivid, colorful, and chronological. The dreams feel more like visits and have a clear beginning, middle and end. Often night workers wake up feeling more tired than when they went to sleep. Read on to discover if you could possibly be a night worker.

CROSSING OVER DREAMS

Many night workers report dreaming about helping souls cross over. When someone dies suddenly from an accident, heart attack or other unexpected cause, they often aren’t aware they are dead. They need help realizing this so they can go through the light. Because the newly deceased are still connected to earth, they can’t see spirit guides, angels and loved ones who have already gone through the light. So they need mediums here on earth to connect with them and tell them to go through the light. This is a job that many natural mediums do during the sleep state. Their soul will astral travel to a newly deceased soul and help them to see the light and cross over.

Sue Ann, a practicing medium in South Carolina, remembers one night dreaming that she was standing on the highway next to a man who had recently died in a motorcycle accident. The man appeared very dazed. He was clearly in shock. Sue Ann got his attention by getting him to repeat his name and where he lived. She told him to look into the light. When he did, he started waving to his grandfather and happily walked through the tunnel to the other side. Sue Ann woke up and read in the newspaper that a man had indeed died that night in a motorcycle accident.

HEALING DREAMS

Many natural healers work to help others even when they’re sleeping. Doctors, nurses, Reiki practitioners and holistic healers have reported helping people in the dream state. They describe dreams where they are in a room with a person, usually someone they don’t know, and they are working energetically on their body to help them achieve a state of balance.

A nurse named Monica often has dreams that she is healing someone with rainbow lights. Monica describes a place that is on the beach. Her clients are on a massage table lulled by the sound of the ocean and calmed by the rainbow lights she directs to their chakras. She usually will meet that person later in the week in real time in her office.

Bob, a Reiki Master, has dreams that he is giving Reiki to someone in a healing temple. He describes a large white building with several columns and stairs leading up to the healing room. He describes hearing beautiful music playing while he does Reiki on the people in his dream. He reports being surrounded by a team of helpers including angels.

DEAR ABBY DREAMS

People who are natural counselors and therapists will often have dreams where they are listening to someone’s problems and helping them work out a solution. Rick, a psychotherapist, has dreams where he’s sitting in a classroom at an old-fashioned desk. He always sees a line of people waiting to talk to him as one by one people sit down in the desk opposite him. Sometimes he just listens to the person, but often he comes up with wonderful solutions and suggestions for them.

Jean, a practicing Tarot reader, has dreams where she’s giving readings to people helping them to make important decisions in their life. In her dreams, she is always seated underneath a large tree with her cards spread out before her. She counsels people on everything from relationships to health and career questions.

A teacher named Julie often dreams of helping students whom she doesn’t know in real life. But one time she dreamt that she helped a young man apply for a scholarship so he could go to the college where she taught history. When the semester started a month later, she met the young man who’d appeared in her dream. He later told her that he dreamt about getting a scholarship and that’s what compelled him to apply for the help, which he did receive.

SNOOPY COME HOME DREAMS

People who are naturally connected to animals often report having dreams where they help animals find their home, get adopted or cross over to the other side. Stephanie, a Veterinarian’s assistant, has had several night worker dreams where she’s helped animals. When her client’s cat went missing, she dreamt that she saw the cat miles away in another person’s house. In the dream she showed the cat how to walk home. The next day, the cat returned home. Stephanie often has dreams where she’s helping a pet to let go of their earthly existence and move on to the other side.

When Barbara’s dog passed away after a long illness, she still heard his paws on the hardwood floors and one night felt his cold, wet nose brush against her leg when she was walking to the kitchen. She feared that he had not crossed over out of loyalty to her. One night she had a dream where she was walking her dog and told him it was okay to move on, that he needed to be in heaven with the other dogs. She watched as he ran off into the light. When she woke up, Barbara knew her dog had finally crossed over.

You might be a night worker too. Do you often wake up exhausted as if you’ve worked all night? Do you have dreams that feel very real? Have you dreamt of helping someone? Have you dreamt of a stranger and later met them in real life? If you think you’re a night worker, start to record your dreams. The more you write your dreams down, the more clearly you’ll remember them. Being a Night Worker can be illuminating and gratifying, but it can also be exhausting when you truly need a good night’s sleep. So if you’ve had a really long day, tell your guides and angels before you go to sleep that you need a night off!